August 12, 2010

August 12, 2010
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others


Welcome to another day in my life. Today is Thursday and I hope you are having a safe and great week.

I know for many of us, we are inundated with images from television, movies and even society itself. You have heard the old saying of keeping up with the Jones. It seems like it is a very American thing to compare ourselves to others. Well luckily I have reached the point where I realized comparing myself to others is not helpful. In fact, it can even cause distress and harm.

One trap that many people fall into is the trap of comparing themselves to others. This is a trap because it only leads to negative results. You cannot win by comparing yourself to others.

When you are comparing yourself to others you are likely doing one of four things:

1. You compare yourself to people who are more successful than you and you get discouraged.

Comparing yourself with people more successful than you may cause you to be discouraged because they have achieved success and you have not. You start looking at their level of success as where you should be. This causes you to look at what you do not have instead of what you do have. It takes away from an attitude of thankfulness and contentment with your current situation. While it is healthy to have goals that you pursue, it is not healthy to get discouraged because others get there faster or have more.

2. You compare yourself with people who are more successful than you and you make excuses.

Another risk in comparing yourself with people more successful is that you start to make excuses for your current position. You start to think about why they have succeeded and you have not. You use these differences to justify your current situation as an excuse. Certainly other people will have a different skill set, but that does not mean that you canít succeed with what you have.

3. You compare yourself with people less successful than you and you get prideful.

It is easy to feel good about yourself when you compare yourself with people who you think are less successful than you are. This is a false form of self-esteem. True self-esteem does not come from considering yourself better than others. It comes from an awareness of your abilities, what you can achieve, and what you have achieved already.

4. You compare yourself with people less successful than you and you get satisfied.

If you continually compare yourself with people who you view as less successful it is easy to get satisfied with where you are at. If you get satisfied with where you are at, you are less likely to pursue goals that may make a big difference in your life and in the lives of others. You are unique. Your skills and abilities are different from everyone else. You should be satisfied when you do your very best. Your satisfaction should not come from the fact that you are further ahead than someone else. They started at a very different point than you.

Instead of comparing yourself to others:

1. Learn from those more successful than you.
2. Teach those less successful than you.
3. Understand that everyone started at a different place
4. Everyone can succeed by doing the best that they can

Hope it helps and please do not compare yourself with others.

Until we meet again; here's wishing you health, hope, happiness and just enough.

big bear hug,



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