August 28, 2015

August 28, 2015
Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire:
An Online Dating Epidemic

Welcome to another day in my life. Today is Friday and we have almost made it through another work week. I hope you have had a beary safe and great week so far. Dab the AIDS Bear is headed back from deployment with the US Army.

My biggest criticism of online dating is this: People lie. Like my ex. When I came across his profile on a site, he had shed five years.

A man I dated a few of years ago first told me he was separated, but later admitted he was actually still living in the same house with his partner. They’d been sleeping on opposite sides of the house for years, he said, but then he confessed that he recently slipped into his bed at least once, and not just for cuddling.

As crazy as it sounds, I felt like he was cheating on me with his own partner. He wanted to continue the relationship, but I kicked him to the curb. It wasn’t easy. I confess I kind of fell for the feller.

The next guy I went out with lied about his politics to get a date with me. When I found out, I kicked him to the curb, too.

The online profile of my previous prevaricator indicated he was 50, but I vetted him and found he was actually 70. I decided to go out with him anyway because he was the first man who asked many questions over the phone and seemed to take a sincere interest in me.

When we met, his online profile photograph proved to be as accurate as his professed age, but at least he showed great taste in restaurants by selecting a very special place with a garden and a pond. He also turned out to be a gentleman, and we had a nice evening. I didn’t tell him that I knew about his deception because that might be kind of judgmental at a time when lying seems to be uncontrollable.

Yet, I couldn’t help but wonder, is he lying about other “facts”? That’s not a healthy way to start a friendship. I feel conflicted.

Luckily, my current partner was mostly honest about everything and we were just friends for the first five years we talked online. Then we started dating when we were both single so I knew most of his baggage.

Hope you have a beary safe and great Friday!

Until we meet again; here's wishing you health, hope, happiness and just enough.

big bear hug,

Daddy Dab