January 3, 2015

January 3, 2015
Why Clutter Happens

Thanks for stopping by to check out another day in my life. Today is Saturday and it is a cold and cloudy day outside.

I was feeling rough when I first got out of bed this morning so my day got off to a very slow start. I was finally able to do my workout this afternoon after having my morning protein shake. Today was chest and bicep day.

Talking about keeping caught up, one thing that amazes me is how much clutter I accumulate on a regular basis. Now I consider myself to be pretty organized even though the piles on my desk might suggest otherwise.

Like it or not, clutter happens. If you want to get rid of clutter, it helps to understand how and why clutter happens and, more importantly, why it happens to nice people like you. In my go-to uncluttering guide, "Unclutter Your Home", author Donna Smallin discusses the phenomenon of clutter:

The root of clutter can be traced to a number of sources. One reason we have so much of it is because our lives have become increasingly complex over the past 20 or 30 years. More moms work outside their homes and growing numbers of men and women are working two jobs.

Remember when Sunday used to be a day of rest? You spent the whole day at home with your family or you all hopped into the station wagon and headed off to Grandma and Grandpa.

Now we are all rushing off in different directions every day of the week. We can not keep up with each other, let alone the clutter. And when we stop, we are too darned tired to deal with it. Tomorrow, we say. Or the next day. Or someday, for sure.

Add to the lack of time the fact that we ha ve acquired a hefty volume of possessions which has prompted us to move to a larger house. The size of the American home has nearly doubled over the last 50 years and the amount of possessions has increased along with it.

Many of us go shopping with nothing particular in mind. But we always come home with something. The more we earn, the more we spend and the more we own. We just keep bringing stuff into our already cluttered homes, and creating more stress by digging ourselves deeper in debt.

So now we have got all this stuff, and some of it has been with us for so long we have become quite attached to it. Oh, once in a while we throw something out or give it away, but mostly we hold on to our stuff because we can not bear to let it go even things we may not need or use anymore.

Our emotional attachment to out stuff accounts for a great deal of clutter. How could you possibly part with the dress you were wearing when your husband proposed to you? Or your child’s kindergarten artwork? Or some other belonging that invokes happy memories of years past?

Other times you keep belongings because you think you might need them. While sometimes you hang on to your stuff because of the past and the future. Women, in particular, tend to keep clothing that does not fit anymore (past). If you give it away, it is like throwing away your hope (future) that someday you will fit into it again!

In many cases, clutter develops from an instinct for self-preservation and feeling of insecurity. We surround ourselves with the familiarity of our stuff, blocking ourselves off from the people and possibilities that have the potential to create true happiness and security in our lives.

Another reason clutter collects is indecisiveness or deferred decision making. This is especially true of perfectionists. Think about it: If you are a perfectionist, you want to do everything just right or not at all. So if you have not got the time to organize your filing cabinet, you put it off and keep putting it off. Judith Kolberg, Director of the National Study Group on Chronic Disorganization, says, “Often, our best intentions are left in stacks.”

So one of my goals this year is to hopefully declutter my life some. How about you? How much clutter is in your life?

Hope you have a beary safe and great Saturday!

Wishing you health, hope. happiness and just enough.

Big bear hug,

Daddy Dab