June 23, 2009

June 23, 2009


Meeting With the Senator


Today is Tuesday and another scorcher here in north Florida. I hope you are having a safe and great week so far.

I started off with an early morning. I had to be up early so I could prepare for my meeting with Senator Bill Nelson and Reps. Corrine Brown and Ander Crenshaw because of my work with AARP. I was meeting each of them regarding health care issue especially with respect to Medicare Part D donut hole issues which hurts many on disability with AIDS.

Yesterday, I was talking about the age gap in the gay community. Next I would like to talk about how the generation gap is evident in activism.

These unnuanced generalizations, as everyone who makes them quickly notes, do a gross injustice to both groups. The gay community or more accurately, communities is hardly monolithic, and its divisions, not just of age but of race, gender, region, and income, are too complex to paint with a broad brush. And Pride Week which this year falls on the 40th anniversary of the Stonewall Inn riots is a reminder that we have always been able to unite when faced with either a common cause or a common enemy. It is when we are not on the front lines that tensions flare. “On its simplest level,” says Jon Barrett, 40, the editor in chief of the 42 year old gay magazine The Advocate, “we think they are naïve. And they think we are old.”

Even on those front lines, it is a complex moment. Last November, eight days after the election, I found myself marching with thousands of gay men, lesbians, and friends of the cause from Lincoln Center to Columbus Circle to protest the passage of Proposition 8 in California. The air was charged; many of us were eager to call out the enemy a well organized, well financed coalition of conservatives who were using churches as political action bases designed to roll back civil rights for gay Americans. And our response was anger. We held up signs with slogans like TAX THIS CHURCH! We yelled ourselves hoarse.

But the demeanor of many of the young attendees felt unfamiliar to older protesters. They were smiling more than seething, and I noticed that many of their picket signs — LET ME GET MARRIED, LOVE ISN’T PREJUDICED, NYC LOVES GAY MARRIAGE — were more like let-the-sunshine-in expressions than clenched fists. Shouting did not come as naturally to them.

"There is nothing duller than a young gay man whose curiosity about the world does not appear to extend past his iPod."

Activism is an unlikely realm in which to spot a generation gap; by definition, a rally attracts people who identify themselves by a shared goal. But it is sometimes an uneasy union; the march marked an encounter between age groups that, although part of the same community, had previously spent little time together. And a difference in outlook was unmistakable. “After Prop 8 passed, a tremendous number of young people who had never been to a protest before wanted to release that energy,” says Corey Johnson, the event’s 27 year old organizer. “And that night was a great example of the two generations being bridged in a productive way. But my impression is that there is a difference. Young people are, I think, upset, but it is not with the level of anger that a lot of older folks feel, and perhaps there is more hopefulness involved.”

To many young gay people, the passage of Prop 8 was shocking but not alarming; it has jolted them into action, but one suspects it is out of a Milk-fed belief that identity politics activism can be ennobling and cool. What does not seem to be driving them is fear; their cheerful conviction that history is going their way seems unshakable compared to ours. That can lead to callousness on both sides; we patronizingly warn them that their optimism is dangerous; they patronizingly tell us that we are too embittered by our own past struggles to see the big picture.

The notion that anger no longer has a primary place in the gay rights movement can feel awfully uninformed to anyone raised on the protests of the late eighties, when say it loud outrage was one of the movement’s only effective weapons. To some of those whose identities as both homosexuals and activists were forged in the early years of the AIDS epidemic, this new aura of serenity is way too “Kumbaya.” It is hard to overstate the centrality of the AIDS crisis in any gay generation gap (the divide between those who are currently 45 and their elders once yawned at least as wide). If you want to know where you stand in gay history, ask yourself where you were in 1982, when the disease took hold in public consciousness. If you were already sexually active by then and you are still here to read this, you are someone who surely knows that fury has its uses. If you were in your teens, wondering how to take even your first steps into life as a gay man in a world in which a single encounter could become a death sentence, you understand fear, and its warping effects down through the decades. And if you were a kid, you grew up seeing AIDS as an unhappy fact of life.

But what about the ever growing cohort of gay men who were not even born in 1982? For most of them, AIDS is not their past but the past. No wonder some of us feel frustrated; when we complain that young gay men do not know their history, what we are really saying is that they do not know our history that once again, we feel invisible, this time within our own ranks.

Just my thoughts. Drop me a line and let me know what you think.

Wishing you health, hope and happiness.



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