March 19, 2010

March 19, 2010
Disclosure


Welcome to another day in my life. Today is Friday and the end of another work week. While still having chilly mornings in South Florida, we at least are in better shape than many other parts of the country from what I have been seeing on the news. So I can not complain. But this is one of the coldest winters in the past fifty plus years here. And to think one of the reasons I moved down here was warmer temperatures.

But like I said I will not complain. I have had different friends around the country have to deal with record snow falls, flooding, mud slides, earthquakes and more all in the past few months. So I think I can put up with a few more weeks of chilling mornings. In fact, I am sure when it gets hot and humid down here soon that I will be praying for a chilly spell.

Luckily, this is a down day with me and I have no appointments where I have to be some where. I am going to try and get laundry done some time today since it has been almost two weeks since the last time I went to the place a few blocks away.

I am still going through health problems and treatments. In fact, I have to go back on Monday to the hospital which I am not looking forward to but is necessary. Hopefully, it will not be a long day there. It all depends on how many of us they have to see and take care of that day.

But there is something serious I would like to talk about today which I read yesterday. Now from reading my blog, you know my standing on disclosing HIV status to sexual partners. In fact, I have not had sex with a negative person in over twenty years. But I still disclose not only my HIV status but all my STD history. Luckily, it is a small list but still I like to be upfront and honest about it.

What I read what an HIV positive Indiana man pleaded guilty February 24 to two felony counts of failing to warn a sexual partner that he had HIV, from the Indiana Star. Tony Perkins, 47, was arrested last month after a former girlfriend reported him to the authorities.

According to the article, this case is likely the first conviction in the state under a 1993 law requiring people living with HIV/AIDS and hepatitis B to inform their sexual partners of their status.

In Johnson Superior Court, Perkins reportedly admitted to having sex with two women including his girlfriend of two and a half years without disclosing his HIV status. He affirms that he always used a condom. But using a condom does not mean you do not have to disclose your status.

Police plan to recommend additional charges after 24 other women have come forward to claim to have had sex with Perkins. None of them has tested positive for HIV.

Perkins said he revealed his HIV status to his dates for about a year after his 2004 AIDS diagnosis but then stopped after a string of post disclosure rejections.

“I told them, and they would never call again,” he said. “They treated me like I had the plague.” While I under the hurt and pain of rejection, not disclosing your status is illegal in many states. In fact, not disclosing is a felony in many states.

Perkins will be sentenced April 21. Now I know a lot of people think this should not be a crime so my point of view will not be popular with some of you. But I feel since I have the virus, it is my duty to let them know and then let them make an informed decision if they want to have sex with me even though I always use condoms.

But those are my thoughts. What about yours? Drop me a line and let me know.

Until we meet again; here's wishing you health, hope and happiness.

big bear hug,



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