March 24, 2015

March 24, 2015
The 15 Most Inspiring Quotes
From Monica Lewinsky's TED Talk

Welcome to another day in my life. Today is Tuesday and I hope you are having a beary safe and great week so far. Dab the AIDS Bear and I are so thankful spring is finally here and the temperature is starting to go higher.

We had the pleasure of watching a wonderful interview with Monica Lewinsky which I would like to share with you today. She had lots to say about online bullying.

Last week, Monica Lewinsky, notorious for a Clinton-era White House sex scandal when she was an intern in the '90s, gave a TED Talk called "The Price of Shame" about Internet bullying, calling herself "patient zero of losing a personal reputation on a global scale almost instantaneously." She spoke movingly about our lack of empathy online and how her own experience at the center of a scandal nearly destroyed her. Here are the 10 best quotes from her speech:

1. "I admit I made mistakes, especially wearing that beret. But the attention and judgment I received, not the story, but that I personally received was unprecedented. I was branded as a tramp, tart, slut, whore, bimbo, and of course That Woman. I was seen by many but actually known by few. And I get it. It was easy to forget that That Woman was dimensional, had a soul, and was once unbroken."

2. "When this happened to me 17 years ago, there was no name for it. Now we call it cyberbullying and online harassment."

3. About her mother's emotional response to the suicide of Tyler Clementi: "She was gutted with pain in a way that I just couldn't quite understand. And then eventually I realized she was reliving 1998. Reliving a time when she sat by my bed every night. Reliving a time when she made me shower with the bathroom door open. And reliving a time when both of my parents feared that I would be humiliated to death, literally."

4. "Today too many parents haven't had the chance to step in and rescue their loved ones. Too many have learned of their child's suffering and humiliation after it was too late."

5. "Every day online, people, especially young people who are not developmentally equipped to handle this, are so abused and humiliated that they can't imagine living to the next day, and some tragically don't. And there's nothing virtual about that."

6. "Cruelty to others is nothing new. But online, technologically enhanced shaming is amplified, uncontained, and permanently accessible."

7. "There is a very personal price to public humiliation, and the growth of the Internet has jacked up that price."

8. "For nearly two decades now, we have been slowly sowing the seeds of shame and public humiliation in our cultural soil, both on- and offline."

9. "A marketplace has emerged where public humiliation is a commodity and shame is the industry. How is the money made? Clicks. The more shame, the more clicks. The more clicks, the more advertising dollars."

10. "We're in a dangerous cycle. The more we click on this kind of gossip, the more numb we get to the human lives behind it, and the more numb we get, the more we click. All the while, someone is making money off of the back of someone else's suffering."

11. "It's time for an intervention on the Internet and in our culture. The shift begins with something simple, but it's not easy: We need to return to a long-held value of compassion."

12. "Online we've got a compassion deficit and empathy crisis."

13. "To become an upstander means instead of bystander apathy, we can post a positive comment for someone or report a bullying situation."

14. "Let's acknowledge the difference between speaking up with intention and speaking up for attention."

15. "Online, showing empathy for others benefits us all, and helps create a safer and better world."

Hope you have a beary safe and great Tuesday!

Until we meet again; here's wishing you health, hope, happiness and just enough.

big bear hug,

Daddy Dab