February 28, 2011

February 28, 2011
A Dent in the Wall

Welcome to another day in my life. Today is Monday and I hope you had a safe and great weekend. It is another busy week for Dab the AIDS Bear and me. We had a very early start to our morning meeting with John Raymond at Broward House about AICP Program.

I have been staring at the dent in wall for sometime now. It is just simple dent really. It has to be less than 1/8th of an inch deep. Paint still covers it. Most people would not notice the dent at the foot of the stairs. Would not give it a second glance. Today I can not take my eyes off of it. I guess that is because the dent was made by the top of my head slamming into the wall.

Two years ago I crashed down that flight of stairs. This tumble, preceded by my dogs and me in crew socks on slick wooden bare stairs, left me with multiple rib fractures, a bloody collapsed lung, and laceration on my head that ended my days of shaving my head for fashion. I had a hundred plus sutures zigzagged on my skull, and I bled out several pints of blood that needed to be replaced. (A sincere and humble note of gratitude to all blood donors anywhere on this planet. Your gift of blood saved my life. You guys are heroes.)

When the paramedics arrived I was, so I am told, not really conscious and laying in a pool of my blood. I do remember or at least I THINK I remember, waking up briefly saying something inane like I am fine really. Just help me up so I can stir the soup before I blacked out again. I do remember a kind and skilled paramedic who must have known me telling to stay still and then sternly demanding that I stop moving. I imagine I was trying to see if I could move my legs. I have a very fuzzy remembrance of thinking I am not cut out to be a quadriplegic. Well so it goes.

The really odd thing about death for me is the fact that I have escaped it so many times. Sometimes I get philosophical about it and wonder why, but mostly I just snicker and take a quick peek over my shoulder looking for the next plane to drop out of the sky on my head. These things happen you know.

I do not remember much after the fall. After several years it is still a haze of blood, pain, and morphine. Actually, one of the big issues that bothers me is that I do not know what I do not know. This time is very loosely rattled in my mind and I can not sort out fact from fuzz. Maybe that is a good thing. God's way of getting us through a tough time by pulling down the shades on memory.

Here is what I do know. I take too much for granted. I solider on past these events in my life and do not give them the notice they deserve. I am a 48 year old man with the bravdo of an impulsive teen.

When placed in context dogs on the stairs with soup on the stove that needs stirring as I lay sucking wind does not seem like such a big deal. But the point is that it should be, and that is what I need to learn. Maybe that is why I am staring at the dent in wall.

Dents can be fixed. Sometimes people can not, and the best you can hope for is honoring that and moving on. I have choices. My life can viewed as a can of lima beans on sale because the can is dinged or as a privilege of survival. So maybe I do have insight after all, but I do not think so. I am much too practical. After all, who the hell wants a dented can of lima beans?

Until we meet again; here's wishing you health, hope, happiness and just enough.

big bear hug,

Daddy Dab